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Is it really possible to change your entire life with just a few simple changes to your everyday vocabulary?
During my studies of personal development, I have constantly challenged myself to adapt the use of vocabulary to a language pattern that empowers me to achieve my life goals and desires.
In this article, I’m going to share some of the language transitions that I work on to achieve this.
All too often, we’re very sloppy with our use of language. In this article, I want to show you some “loser language” and “winner language” and why these differences are more than just mere semantics.
Before this comes across as a “holier than thou” preaching session, I do want to say that I sometimes use “loser language” myself.
I am however also quick to call myself on it, so I don’t reinforce the negative language patterns as firmly entrenched beliefs that take a stronghold and really limit my potential.
So, let’s take a closer look at some of the transformational vocabulary.
#1 – I will try ==> I will do
Using this word instils a sense and feeling of doubt of uncertainty in your mind.
This invariably means that there’s a strong chance you’ll procrastinate altogether since you’re not certain of the outcome, or at best, take limited ineffective action which will keep your progress as slow and steady.
#2 – I know ==> I do habitually
How many times have you responded to something that someone’s told you with the words “I know.”
- To lose weight, you need to eat foods that are conducive to a healthy lifestyle! I know!
- You need to start investing money to secure your financial future! I know!
- You need to invest in a coach/mentor to shortcut your success! I know!
The wisdom of a Zen master once said,
To know and not to do is not yet to know.
This means that if you’re not consistently applying the principle habitually, then you do not know it. You have merely heard it before, read it before or watched it before.
Knowledge IS NOT power. Applied knowledge IS power.
You need to practise changing the use of the words “I know” to indicate only the consistent practising of the principles.
#3 – I believe I will/can ==> I know I will/can
Belief is a word that is banded around in the personal development world because people say that you must first believe that something will happen before it does. Whilst there is some truth in that, there is another level which can be attained with training.
You see, beliefs are formed when situations in life have provided your brain with sufficient evidence as reference points to make them believable. The question is what if life hasn’t presented you with those references or that you’ve failed to spot those references to validate and reinforce the beliefs?
The word “know” conveys certainty. There is absolutely no doubt in your mind when you know something is going to happen. When you wake up tomorrow morning, do you believe or know that daylight will follow the darkness?
Exactly. This is something that I am working on with myself now. Changing my mindset from believing that something will happen to accepting it as an absolute fact with absolute certainty.
Having this kind of thinking means that you’re naturally going to move forward because you’re simply success in progress going about your daily activities.
#4 – I can’t ==> I can
Henry Ford so wisely once said,
Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right
What Henry meant was that you would find a way to validate your belief by either taking the “can do” or “can’t do” actions in alignment with the belief.
I can’t afford it.
Ever caught yourself saying that? The question is with that belief will you ever be able to?
Simply practise rephrasing the sentence habitually to one which puts you in a position to act.
If I paid for this, by what means would I raise the finance?
#5 – I don’t ==> I do
This is the ugly cousin of “I can’t”. Of course, there are reasonable uses for these words, however they are often used as an excuse or stated as a self-imposed limitation.
I don’t have the time for this.
More often than not when this is said, it’s simply because the person has chosen other activities instead of the one they’re making an excuse for by saying they don’t have the time for it.
The more accurate truth is that they don’t consider it to be a priority amongst the things they are currently dealing with. Invariably, with most people, the things they’re currently dealing with are much lower value activities than ones that will help them achieve their ideal life.
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